What Happens Next: A Gallimaufry

melancholic romantic comic cynic. bi & genderqueer. fantasy writer. sysrae on ao3.

nothandaddyhoosier asked: "Someone can pleasantly decline the offer, yes, but if they feel offended, they’re not obliged to take your feelings into account" I really enjoyed your exchange with John Roman (and in general, your blog is awesome). I just wanted to say that it's absolutely true that if you offer someone something they haven't asked for they can feel offended and not worry about your feelings but I think that goes both ways. I think assuming without any prior knowledge that this person is misogynistic..

Not sure if that hanging sentence was deliberate or an error, but: I agree that automatic assumptions of misogyny are a bad thing. I mean, if some guy calls me little lady, asks if my bag’s too heavy for  a lady like me and lays it on thick with the sleaze, then yeah, chances are I’ll call him a misogynist asshat - but that’s because I have evidence of the fact. If someone just asks to carry my bag, then until or unless they throw in some actual sexism, I’ll tend to assume they’re either just being polite (if it doesn’t come off as creepy) or a little bit clueless (if it does).

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