peroxideshotstuff-deactivated20 asked: Hey, So I've just started reading your stuff recently and I like it a lot. In regards to *headdesk* though, I can't help but think that the conversation would have gone differently in person. I see your points but I can't help but empathize with a man who digs himself a hole and then can't dig himself out. It's difficult for guys trying to learn to be feminist in our culture. (Not that he wasn't also being an ass, but I couldn't help but put myself in his shoes.)
Glad you’re enjoying the blog! It definitely would have been different in person - but then, most things are. In online chats, it’s hard to adequately convey tone and nuance, and where IRL it’s easy to stop midsentence and backtrack if you think someone’s misunderstood, simultaneously written responses only lend themselves to further divergence.
I understand your empathy for his position, and near the end, I definitely lost my cool. But I’ve had so many frustrating, painful arguments with this person that trying to keep calm in this instance was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I’m well aware that posting the chat online isn’t the most mature response I could’ve mustered up, but it felt like the only thing I could salvage from the exchange was to make into an instructional example of What Not To Do (on my side as well as his) rather than just sit around feeling helpless and belittled.
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