What Happens Next: A Gallimaufry

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Anonymous asked: Do you believe I'm mansplaining when I info dump as an autistic person? From the perspective of the person I'm speaking to, the experience would probably be identical, and that concerns me. Info dumping comes from a place of loving the sensation of talking enthusiastically about something I care about, and unfortunately we tend to do it regardless of how interested the other person is, or if they already know all of it. It comes from a place of unbridled enthusiasm and social obliviousness.

Speaking personally, there’s always a clear difference to me between someone infodumping because they’re caught up with enthusiasm about a subject and someone who doesn’t trust the listener to know what they’re talking about. It’s not the same thing at all: for one thing, someone who’s enthusing is usually eager for the other person to contribute, too, and has a positive response to the other person introducing new information about a beloved topic. Enthusiasm isn’t scepticism, condescension or rudeness - it might be a bit oblivious sometimes, but it’s the obliviousness of intense personal focus rather than active disinterest in the other person, and that makes a big difference. :)

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  14. ltleflrt said: Totally true. My husband is autistic, and he has NEVER made me feel like he’s mansplaining something to me. Although one time he started telling me something technical like I was one of the customer’s he helps every day and I had to snap my fingers to get his attention and remind him I have the same education he does, and he switched into tech speak and finished enthusiastically explaining email server functions to me lol.
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