What Happens Next: A Gallimaufry

melancholic romantic comic cynic. bi & genderqueer. fantasy writer. sysrae on ao3.

marulaoil asked: by mild biphobia i actually meant micro aggression but yeah it rubbed me wrong because if I entered a relationship with a guy it would immediately become queer because i'm bisexual and I can't have a 'straight relationship' but I understand you can't include the complexity of bisexual relationships in a twitter rant and different bisexuals would feel differently about that one case

No, I get it, and I’m sorry to have upset you. This is something I’m thinking about a lot at the moment, though, and I actually found it really difficult to reply to your comment - am finding it difficult to reply here, in fact - because I’m monogamously married to a straight man, but very, very recently realised that I’m genderqueer (of which my husband is fully supportive), and I wasn’t sure how to articulate that in my reply without starting another conversation altogether. Which, I guess this now constitutes me coming out on the internet, so. Um. Yeah.

Point being, this struck a nerve, because I don’t like the idea of defining my relationship as either queer or straight - the latter because I’m not, and the former because my husband’s not, and I don’t see why either of our sexualities should have more of a defining say than the other in how the combination is perceived. The fact that I’ve had an epiphany about who I am doesn’t change his orientation, and it doesn’t change our marriage. 

Complex sexualities woooo!

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    I think it’s awesome when people have these revelations, but I’m mostly reblogging this because OWL. LITTLE BITTY OWL.
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    I 100% percent support you in that. Like I said in the original post, I think it’s something we all should be able to...
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    See, for me, my being genderqueer means that I see all my relationships as queer and it would be a deal breaker for me...
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